There are ways of releasing stress and calming the primitive brain. They aren’t complicated and are easy to learn. Take three deep breaths: breath in calmness, breath out stress and anxiety. Deep breathing can help to send the Amygdala a fundamental message that things are OK and for it to calm down.
But deep breathing alone won't break the negativity effect and the stress loops that our brain can get caught up in.
Overcoming Negativity Bias
Barbara Frederickson, esteemed professor psychology at the University of North Carolina, has shown that negative experiences can haver five times the psychological impact as positive experiences.
“The negativity bias (also known as the negativity effect) refers to the notion that, even when of equal intensity, things of a more negative nature (e.g. unpleasant thoughts, emotions, or social interactions; harmful/traumatic events) have a greater effect on one’s psychological state and processes than do neutral or positive things. In other words, something very positive will generally have less of an impact on a person’s behavior and cognition than something equally emotional but negative.”
Further, a negative bias can also lead to a loop of stress formation and further reinforcement of our negative bias.
Liminal Coaching helps you to stay out of this and other horrible loops.
Inducing a Liminal State
All of this is why we work at a deeper level and induce a liminal state by the use of focused concentration, imagery and suggestion to calm the instinctive mind and encourage a voluntary, positive re-framing of the problems you face.
It's like a personal trainer for your brain. You go from feeling out of control and fight or flight into a calm and energized state from which the formidable capabilities of the higher brain can be brought to bear on your problems or creative and fulfilling thoughts.
It can also help to encourage a number of other improvements in how you negotiate a wide variety of situations and scenarios.
In Liminal Coaching, we often use the following simplified model of the brain to help explain three key areas of the brain: the conscious mind, the unconscious mind and the instinctive mind.
The conscious mind is a linear processor. This is the part of you that pays attention, reads books, orders coffee and decides what to do.
The unconscious mind is a multi-dimensional processor. It works in the background most of the time, doing many things simultaneously.
The instinctive mind is concerned with survival. It is constantly scanning your environment for potential threats. It assesses all situations and information based on a binary, “threat/no threat” basis.
Liminal Coaching is largely about learning how to increase the communication and teamwork between these parts. It is about gaining the tools and ability to also get your instinctive mind “under control.”
Learn more about how your brain works.
Liminal Coaching Sessions
Sessions begin with a calibration. We look at what's been good about your, what you have enjoyed and what has given you moments of pure, unadulterated joy. We do this for a very important reason. When we focus on remembering things that have been genuinely pleasurable, the blood supply to the amygdala (core of the instinctive mind) is reduced. This can reduce our levels of cortisol and enable our higher brain to function more efficiently.
The second half of every session is where you get to relax as I bring in my special music and begin a guided visualization exercise where you sink down into a deeper state and we begin to work with your deeper resources and powerful subconscious to find and reinforce the calmness and clarity that become your path out of the forest and gives you a new relationship with your instinctive mind.
Session duration: 1 hour
Session fee: $150 (packages are available)
Session method: Sessions take place over a secure video conferencing connection (over your computer, phone or other device) and can be done anywhere you can find a peaceful place to be alone and with a comfortable chair.
About Mike Parker
Mike Parker has over 30 years of experience in global systems and over 10 years helping clients to innovate, overcome challenges and improve performance across a wide range of business domains.
He is as comfortable at the director level in a global consulting company as he is sitting in the chair across from you and helping you overcome your blocks and anxieties.
Mike’s interests are deep and broad, ranging across psychology, anthropology, philosophy, math, business, music and economic systems. All of this is supplemented by culture studies and a life devoted to Systems Thinking. Mike has an MBA in innovation, finance and strategy and has supplemented this with further post-graduate studies in Systems Thinking and Governance. He is a qualified Solutions Focused Therapist and a Research Fellow at the Schumacher Institute.